Ultimate Dating Resource Guide

How important a role do the press play? Would we be completely lost without them? What price do we pay for reading their informative stories and keeping up to speed with ‘developments’? Is ignorance really bliss? Was Pollyanna really happy? Why does reading about or hearing bad news make our stomachs turn?

Many people understand human emotions to a certain extent. The basic ones, especially of a negative nature, are there to protect us from things which we feel aren’t good for us. Disgust and fear protect us from physical danger, but do we understand what they mean when our emotions are roused from our observation of life?

They may be attributed little labels such as fear, embarrassment, anxiety, depression, loneliness, sadness etc, and have easily identifiable circumstances attached, but in essence they all feel pretty lousy. We also tend to take responsibility for our emotions, as they come from inside us, and we tend to associate the bad feelings with ourselves.

Humans are exceptional beings on the face of the earth, in that they have the ability to think outside the box. They have the ability to direct their thoughts in a creative manner that other animals do not share. When you focus on a subject, you are literally attracting the necessary components to create your object of focus. This is easy to see in the creation of say a house when conceived in the mind of an architect, but it applies to everything physical that you see, even planet earth (though that was a thought that we humans didn’t come up with). Have you ever experienced thinking about a friend and then soon after serendipitously running into them? It seemed like a chance encounter, but was it really?

And how do emotions play into all this? I like to think of emotions as a sixth sense, a powerful guidance from within. Your subconscious is aware of all of your beliefs and desires on all subjects. When you think a thought, or offer words or actions, your subconscious measures these against your beliefs and desires. If the two are harmonious, you get positive feedback in the form of good feelings, and if they are not harmonious, you get negative feedback in the form of negative feelings.

As your creative mind wanders over something that you do not want in your life, your subconscious offers you negative emotion to attempt to steer your thinking back on course to better feeling thoughts (towards things that you do want). If you are focussing on things that you do want to experience, you will know because you will be offered good feelings which you will feel in your solarplexus (gut feeling), your emotional centre

So the next time you pick up the paper and read about someone being stabbed, and start to feel vulnerable about the same happening to you, remember you are being offered that negative emotion because you do not want to attract such an event into your life. You can focus on better feeling things and attract those instead. Good feels good, bad feels bad.

When someone says something to you which is unloving, causing you to think thoughts that you are in some way inappropriate, your subconscious knows that is not in line with what you really know to be the case, and so offers you negative emotion to tell you your thinking is off track. Similarly, if you think ill of others, it is not because they have done something wrong or bad, but because your thoughts of them do not sit well with what you really know them to be (that they are good), and so you are offered negative emotions as a guide that you’re a little off course.

Life is a perfectly balanced world of good and bad. Which aspects do you want to include in your life? If you can gravitate towards better and better feeling thoughts, then you have the knowledge that you are on track to what you want to achieve in life and what you believe will get you there. As you look for the good in the world, you will attract more and more of it to you. Characteristics of people, houses, jobs, situations, whatever you want. You will know as you use your emotions to guide you. Feel good.

Did you just have a breakup that you wish never happened? Breakups happen for many different reasons, but they’re never easy to deal with. If you want to win back lost love, you have quite a challenge in front of you.

Winning back lost love is difficult not because your ex doesn’t want you back, but because your ex doesn’t want the reason for the initial breakup to happen again. Whatever it was that caused your breakup, your ex most likely doesn’t want to go through it one more time. So if you want your ex back, you’ll need to convince them that you’re a different person, and that you’ll never ever make the same mistakes again.

Weigh Up The First Steps

The first step is to assess the relationship and what caused it to end. Did the breakup happen because of a stupid mistake on your part? Did you say or do something that compelled your ex to break up with you? Or did your ex simply give up on you since you wouldn’t listen to them? (This is most probably about a bad habit you have that they kept pointing out over and over, but you wouldn’t listen.) Whatever it was, you’ll need to zero in on the reason why the breakup happened and promise yourself to fix it.

Of course, it’s not easy. That’s why if you’re not willing to change the very things that caused the breakup, whether it was a mistake, a bad habit, or whatever it was, then you might just be wasting your time trying to get your ex back. After all, even if you did manage to win back lost love, can you give any guarantees that the original causes for the breakup won’t happen again?

Answers To A Problem

But if you think that you’re willing and able to get your act together, then by all means take the first step. When you know what caused the breakup, take steps to fix it. For instance, if you had a bad temper, you might want to remind yourself to stay calm whenever something ticks you off. You may even benefit from an anger management course or, better yet, some spiritual pursuit that’ll make you see just how petty many things are compared to the greater scheme of things. There are many solutions to a single problem, so make sure you don’t give up when you fail the first time around.

It’s important not to hound your ex while you’re trying to improve yourself. Your ex shouldn’t get the wrong idea that you’re trying to impress them by making an effort to change. If you want to win back lost love, the idea is to make them discover on their own that you’ve become a better person. It’s a lot more impressive that way, since actions speak much louder than words in this situation.

But the most important thing to remember is that this self-improvement isn’t a one-time deal. You’ll need to hold on to this improvement for as long as you want your ex to stay with you. That means if you love your ex and want to keep them, then prepare to make these improvements a lifetime plan.